Wednesday, October 13, 2010

Book Review: How to Unspoil Your Child Fast

How to Unspoil Your Child Fast, A Speedy Complete Guide to Contented Children and Happy Parents by Richard Bromfiled, PhD



I love this book!
Dr. Bromfield has outlined several things that we as parents, we all guilty of. The bribe, to coaxing to get homework or chores done. The idle threats.. Oh the idle threats are the worst!
The chapter title "UnSpoiling in Public" should be a must read for all parents to be! How many times have you seen that meltdown in the store because they could not have what they wanted? I've seen my fair share.

I have tried to make some of these changes in my own life and it is slow going, but definitely works.

Verbal recognition is key, especially when you notice they are trying and not pointing it out to you. (Hey, look I'm being good, can I please have a Star Wars figure now?)

There was a piece in Chapter 2 "Commit" that I absolutely love.
It says:
"A child learns gratitude by not getting everything she wants. A child learns patience by waiting. A child learns generosity by sharing and giving. A child learns self control by having to control herself. And above all, she learns contentment by not being trained to always need more and faster."

I find this paragraph so very true and so many of us grew up with these values.

If you have children, even if you do not feel that they are "spoiled", I encourage you to read through this book.

At the beginning of each chapter, there are little quotes from celebrities, authors, Dr's, etc. I love them. I want to remember them all!

I am going to keep this one and turn it around on my boys when they whine about dinner;
"As a child my family's menu consisted of two choices: take it or leave it." - Buddy Hackett


Now, I do feel that children are spoiled, but not like some I have seen. They'll get upset if I don't feed them McDonald's while walking Wal-Mart, or refuse to let the "browse" the toy aisle because I want to stick to my list and get in and out of the store. They generally do not have huge meltdowns in restaurants, and we generally don't go out to eat alot because it's difficult for our 18 month old to sit still that long.
But all in all, my kids are pretty well- behaved. They have moments (some times more moments in a day than I'd like) but taking control, and keeping it that way, as (one of) the parent)s) in this house is going to happen in this house whether they like it or not. It will make them appreciate so much more than they do now and allow each of us to grow.

If you would like to purchase this book, it is available on Amazon.com.

Disclosure: I was provided with a paperback copy of this book for Review Purposes. No monetary compensation was received. All opinions regarding this book review are 100% mine.

4 comments:

  1. This sounds like an invaluable book. It makes you realize that when we spoil our children we are are doing more harm than good.

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  2. I like the very honest approach of this book. It really keeps us from being completely unaware but putting right out there for us to see and examine. It really makes us stop to reflect, and not feel like bad people or parents. Thanks for sharing, this is great.

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  3. I think we're all guilty of being indulgent sometimes... my husband's fave line though is always... this house is not a democracy - for when we have to make those tough decisions... It can be hard not to spoil them though - they're just so wonderful ;)
    Found your blog on pitch it ;)

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  4. Definitely sounds like a book I need. My kids are actually pretty good, but there are areas that can be improved and I think this book could really help!

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