Tuesday, September 23, 2014

Being #grateful for those in your lives

My friends lately are having a hard time dealing... with their Moms.
It's not a hard thing to imagine.
Mom criticizes you hair or your house, or they way you raise your kids. They've been their, they have opinions.
But when they say to me, you have NO idea what it's like, they're correct.
 
And that's where I stop them.
 
My Mom (nor my Dad) will never take pleasure in criticizing anything in my life, they will never scold me for giving my kids sweets late at night, or allowing them to play Xbox just a little longer. They will never hear the words, I love you or get thoughtful handmade cards from my kids.
 
My Mom was my best friend. While I am sure she had her faults, I didn't see them.
At the age of 18, I lost my Mom to a heart attack. My brother was only 14.
Since my parents divorced when I was 7 or 8, and I spent most of my life with my Mom, I didn't have a close relationship with my Dad. At the age of 22, just 6 months after I got married ( a wedding my Dad chose not to attend), he passed away, again of a heart attack.
 
 
I tell my friends all the time that they are lucky. They can complain about their parents.
They can call them and say "I love you" or "I'm sorry"..
I never had the chance to say goodbye to either of my parents.
 
My children know them through photos and memories I have.
 
I tell my husband all the time, always say goodbye.
 
We never know how much time we have on this earth and there is no reason not to show our love for one another.

5 comments:

  1. Darlene Jones-NelsonSeptember 23, 2014 at 9:52 PM

    I tell my Kids I love them daily if its on a text, phone call or just over Facebook! I do not know what I would do without them. A great Post! Thanks for sharing I hope everyone shows or tell their loved ones that they love them daily.

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  2. I am fortunate ro have both my parents in my life and my children have grandparenrs. I cherish all rhe time spent with my children and let them kniw daily they are loved. I have two that still live af home and one in her 20s that lives on her own. But we talk everyday by ohine ir text to stay involved in each others lives!

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  3. So true. I was blessed to have my parents central in my life even though our family was dysfunctional. They are gone now and I wouldn't trade a day I had with them, even the very bad ones, for any day without them.

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  4. I'm so sorry. I really don't know what else to say. Reading this post brought tears to my eyes. I totally agree with you,none of us are promised tomorrow, and we should all show kindness and love to each other. I'm sure your parents would be extremely proud of you! And they live through your heart and memories.

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  5. I totally agree- I was fortunate enough to have my parents until my girls were adults. Thanks for sharing this heartfelt post with everyone.

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