Sunday, June 28, 2015

A great Parenting book ! Motivate Your Child Action Plan ... A great guide for my kids #heartparenting #sponsored

Disclosure: I received this book for review purposes. All opinions are my own.
 
Parenting is hard !!
Seriously ... I thought that my kids has some terrible 2's , HA !! This pre-teen adolescent nonsense is really trying my patience .. Was I this way with my Mom ?
 
 
I jumped at the chance to review this book. The Motivate Your Child Action Plan offers parenting advise, solutions, tips, and references Biblical scriptures as well as real life scenarios.
 
I get this one a lot.. "Why are you so hard on me? Why can't I just have an iPhone like my friend?"
Really? Because you're 12 maybe? I don't consider this suffering. I think more like "Wait until your Father gets home" as suffering.. At least, that's what worked for me.
I think sometimes my kids find that hard work = suffering. Maybe they feel that way when I ask them to volunteer when they don't want to. I want them to know, there is a world outside of their peripheral vision . I want them to try, fail, and try again.
 
 

This one is my favorite. I'm not here to be your friend, to make you happy and spoil you until you are the coolest kid. Nope !
I am here to make sure you are a well rounded person. I want you to know that every person matters. I want you to make a difference, no matter how great or small. I'll give you freedom to make your own choices and your own mistakes.
 
 
We, as parents, need to draw this line often. I'm not usually a harsh person. I get my point across without fail, but I do my very best not to belittle or demean my boys. Self Confidence and Self Esteem are so important and I don't want to break those down any further than the outside world influences may do. My kids know when I mean business and I usually don't have to say a word.
 
 
 
I really need to focus more on this one !!! I do like to talk to my kids before and after consequences have to come into play. I don't like to get to the point where I am just so mad and frustrated, that I start spewing out punishments I have no intention of enforcing.
I think allowing my children to discuss this with us, creates a sense of responsibility. When your child creates a consequence for themselves, or realizes that they now have to endure that consequence, really hits home for them.
 
 
I could go on and on about how I can find pieces of this book, that pertains to situations I've been in.
 
After a long and trying day, I sit down and breathe and pick up this book and try to find solutions on how I could have handled something differently.
 
 I do like how this book is not overly biblical and religious, but creates a different approach.
By integrating scripture verses and talking about how God wants us [all] to be more like him, we grow and learn to communicate and handle difficult situations better.
 
 
 
I plan on using this book for quite some time.
It will definitely be a Go-To reference for parenting my 3 boys.

5 comments:

  1. I so agree with the 'I'm not here to be your friend.' I told my daughters that when they were young. They would come home and something wouldn't go their way and they would say, "Why can't you be like so and so's mom? They are like friends or sisters." That's when I would tell them. Now that they are in their mid-twenties, they both have told me that they are glad that I never acted like anything other than Mom. They told me stories of how their friends' moms would drink with their daughters or let them smoke because 'they were friends' and now they have a lousy relationship with their mothers or they're always pregnant or in trouble with the police. It's hard to have a good adulthood when your relationship isn't treated like mother/daughter when you're growing up, though it made me feel good to know that my daughters appreciated me being a mom :)

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  2. Sounds like this book offers some good advice. Wish I'd had it when my child went through those tender years. Might just buy it for her since she has three of her own now, one of which will be turning 13 next month. Thanks for the review!

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  3. I am in complete agreement. parents are not here to be their child's friend. I think a lot of parents make the mistake of being friends instead of being parents. Then when their child starts acting out and they try to be a parent it's too late.

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  4. I agree, we're their guides to live right and not be their buddies. I can't tell you how many times I heard from my 7 kids "why can't you be like so & so's mother or how their friends could do this or that This sounds like a book all parents should have. Thanks for the post.
    Carol L,
    Lucky4750 (at) aol (dot) com

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  5. Thank you for being there for all of the children. It is so good that you are so informative and in an entertaining style.

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